Hello Rock Star parents,
I’d like to have some cheery, positive solution for you today, but I honestly don’t have the energy to answer a reader question this week. I’m just so incredibly sad over the news of yet another mass shooting in the US. As human beings it is tough to make sense out of this. I don’t know what it will take to change things. I also know how powerless it can feel in the aftermath of such an event. What do we say to our children? What do we say to ourselves? Difficult questions with no easy answers.
What I do know, is that the people who are carrying out these heinous acts are damaged in their hearts. Today I stood in the checkout line at Target and observed a woman in front of me. She looked disheveled. Her hair was not combed, her clothes didn’t fit her quite right, and she was mumbling to herself before launching into a personal story with the check out lady. What I heard was this: “I’m really trying not to spend so much money. Every time I come home from going to the store, my boyfriend examines every penny I spend and gets mad if I spent something I shouldn’t have. I don’t even go out to the store that much because I get so anxious that I have to take a Xannax to just make it out the door.” She left her cart at the end of the checkout line and left. My heart ached for her. I wondered if she had access to good mental health care. I wondered if she had any supportive family members. I wondered if she felt loved at all.
Every single day, people are struggling. Not just having a tough day, but doing everything they can to get through the day. People have so much hurt and pain in their hearts and don’t have the tools to manage it. So, what YOU can do today, and what YOU can model for and TEACH your children to do, is to work really hard to fill the hearts of others with love. People (adults and kids alike) want to feel validated and worthwhile. When you interact with others, ALWAYS assume they need love. ALWAYS assume they are dealing with something difficult and challenging. ALWAYS do something kind or thoughtful for them. Think to yourself and as a family: What can I(we) do to let this person know she is loved, important, and worthwhile? Then DO SOMETHING!
Now go hug your kids and fill their little hearts with your love.